Women Convo: I’m 27 years old and I still live at home – Am I ever going to have a life?
When my Nan was the age I am now, she’d already been married, moved from Cornwall to Luton, popped out three kids and bought her own home.
I, on the other hand, still live at home, have a university degree – that has led nowhere – under my belt, date my friends more than I date guys and spend the rest of my free time binge-watching shows on Netflix or NOW TV.
(If you’re wondering, right now I’m currently addicted to Legion and Stranger Things – again.)
Even though I definitely know a lot of people in the same boat as me, it’s a bit hard to not feel like I’m completely stuck right now.
Once graduating from university, I knew the chances of me moving into my own place anytime soon were pretty slim to none, but I’ve still always had the notion of moving out by the time I’m 30 in the back of my mind.
Now that 30 is fast approaching however, I feel like the only movement I’m making is going backwards.
I’m single, I work part-time (in a job no way related to my degree) and a lot of my friends are concentrating on their career right now so although I go out as much as I can, most of my time is spent at home skint.
On paper, the way to solve my problem seems simple – get a job, save up, buy my own place, and eventually meet a rockstar to marry.
In real life, it’s not that simple.
Even when I was working full time, I found it near impossible to save. Most of my money went on rent (although cheap at home, I still have to contribute, which I think is fair), car stuff and my phone bill.
The rest went on having a social life – I find it impossible to say no to anything exciting, so I always found myself buying tickets for music festivals or quirky events in London.
What was left at the end of the month just kind of fizzled out on bits and bobs here and there.
Because I spent a lot of my time working, I felt I deserved a treat now and then. Before I knew it, all my money would go on a new dress, some junk food or a fun evening out in London.
Now that I work part-time, my ‘treats’ are few and far between and because I don’t have the money to waste, instead I get my entertainment from Netflix and movies.
But now I find it hard to see my friends and have any form of social life as it’s not like I can have friends over for a dinner party or a movie marathon.
And don’t even get me started on dating when you live at home.
I can’t afford to go out and meet guys regularly and even when I do manage to get to a bar, half the guys there are too busy on their phone, swiping left and right on Tinder.
Tinder is always an option, but when it gets to that inevitable point five-or-so dates down the line and neither of you have your own place, things get halted pretty damn quickly.
Many friends have suggested some options involving my car and going for a ‘drive’ with my date. No thank you.
I know I’m not the only person in my situation though.
When you can’t find a job related to your degree and can’t afford to move out of home, it’s so easy to feel lost and stuck.
Unfortunately I know all too well that it’s an increasingly natural part of life and I just have to keep my head up and keep taking small steps to move forward.
Until then, Netflix is the answer.
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