Relationships need to grow and evolve to become perfect. Here are a few things to talk about in a relationship that can help you do just that.
All relationships aren’t the same.
And the status of your relationship has a lot to do with the things you and your partner talk about.
While conversations come naturally as two people start dating and falling in love with each other, there are a few conversations that can help create a perfect relationship over time.
So are you in a new relationship?
Or are you in a seasoned long term relationship?
Things to talk about in a relationship
Conversations between couples have to be fun and yet, illuminating.
And here are a few great things to talk about for couples that can keep the excitement and the love glowing strong.
Things to talk about in all relationships
Irrespective of your relationship status, here are a few conversation tips that can help both of you understand each other and create new exciting conversations that can keep the relationship alive even when it doesn’t involve love and mush.
# Daily individual lives
Talk about each other’s daily events and activities. It can help both of you understand more about each other’s lives. Most couples ignore these conversations and end up drifting away from each other in no time.
# Movies and TV shows
Movies and television shows are perfect conversation makers for all couples. They provide for hours of gossiping and interesting conversations with a fresh perspective every day.
# Crushes and second glances
Do you think someone in your workplace is attractive? Or is someone from the third floor trying to catch your attention by trying to flirt with you? Talk to your partner about it. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but these conversations can actually bring both of you more closer than ever before and even eliminate insecurities.
# Hobbies and interests
Do you like clubbing, painting or playing games? Talk about it with your partner. Our hobbies and interests change all the time, and keeping a lover in the loop will help both of you understand each other’s likes and dislikes better.
# Silent conversations
Silence is a beautiful thing in any relationship. Just being able to sit next to each other without feeling awkward or having to worry about what to talk about is a sign of a perfect relationship already.
But then again, are you both being comfortable with each other or just ignoring each other?
Things to talk about in new relationships
New relationships are more fun and exciting, it’s touchy feely, sexy and doesn’t involve a hint of long term relationship just yet. You may be floating on the bubble of infatuation and everything may just seem perfect. If you want your relationship to stay the same forever, talk about serious issues in a lighter vein and avoid any long term plans unless both of you are definitely serious about the relationship. Here are a few great things to talk about in a new relationship.
# Goals and focus in life
New relationships are exciting and mysterious, but it helps a lot to start understanding each other’s goals and aspirations in life early in the relationship to avoid the pain of being stuck in a relationship with two different goals and ideologies towards life.
# New places to see together
Talking about new places to spend the weekend together can be a lot of fun in a new relationship. Do you have a few favorite hangouts where you like to spend a few hours over the weekend? Or did you just hear about a new restaurant or a movie that you definitely have to check out? Talk about it.
# Gossip about each other’s lives
Talk about either of your friends and their relationships, talk about work and talk about either of your favorite shows on TV. In a new relationship, even the most mundane of conversations can make your partner’s eyes light up. Help both of you understand each other’s friends, interests and everything else with happy gossip.
# Lifestyle and habits
What does your partner like doing over the weekend? How long do they take to dress up for a night out? How long do they spend playing games every evening? What about vacations, family, pets, hobbies, and all the works? Whew, couples in a new relationship have so many exciting things to talk about, don’t they?!
Use these conversations to learn about each other’s lifestyles and interests. It can help judge your compatibility for the long term.
# Past relationships
Past relationships are suspense thrillers in the dating scenario. We want to talk about it, but yet, we’re too scared to talk about it before we feel like the time is right.
Don’t talk about past relationships until you’re a few months into a new relationship, unless of course, it crops up out of the blue into a conversation. Hiding facts about past relationships or revealing them too soon can create insecurities and confusions that could damage a relationship before it’s had the time to create a strong foundation.
Things to talk about in seasoned long term relationships
Long term relationships are not easy to experience, but if you’ve been past a few years and are still deeply in love with each other, well, kudos to you!
Here are a few things to talk about in a long term relationship that will ensure that both of you still think along the same lines. After all, a perfect long term relationship isn’t defined by two people in love with each other. It is defined by two people who love each other and understand each other more than anyone else in the world.
# Talk about finances
Finances and money issues play a big part in any long term relationship. And monetary satisfaction in a long term relationship can be achieved only if both partners discuss ways to save money, invest money and spend money.
# Your future together and paired goals
One of the satisfying conversations of a long term relationship is the one involving future plans and goals in life. Talk about your dreams and aspirations with your partner and make sure you know your partner’s wants and dreams in life too.
Sometimes we assume we know everything about our partner, but it takes a few conversations and exchange of ideas to truly understand each other instead of making wrong assumptions.
# Vacations and getaways
Vacations are a happy time for every partner. Both of you may work hard all year long and may want to look forward to something exciting and pleasurable to renew the excitement of love and life. Talk about vacations, even if you intend to travel several months later.
Talking about breaks and romantic getaways can fill both of you with a surge of happiness and motivation even if there are a lot of hurdles and pain today.
# Kids and family
Families may seem perfect on the outside, but every one of them has a few cracks that can be a minor annoyance. Discuss about family matters and how either of you can deal with it. Talk about kids and their lives ahead. And if you don’t have kids just yet, talk about when you intend to have them and how you can plan for them. Conversations like these are better spoken earlier than later.
# Intellectual conversations and emotional growth
In a perfect relationship, both partners must be able to predict each other’s thinking and behavior. But it doesn’t end with little odd jobs or happy surprises.
Life is a complex experience that’s as unique as we are. Have intellectual conversations about life, the paths people choose, the hurdles both of you have overcome and mysterious forces that both of you believe in. When you grow emotionally and intellectually as a couple, both of you will come closer to each other, spiritually and intellectually. And if that doesn’t make for a perfect couple, what does?